The five purposes of marriage
1 Companionship-After creating Adam God saw it better to make a woman for him purposely for companionship;Genesis 2:182 Sexual satisfaction-A man and a woman both attract each other sexually the moment they reach adult age,and so God intended for them to choose a permanent partner who can satisfy him/her.
3 Completeness-A man is not complete until hes joined to his wife.
4 Multiplication-God ordered man and woman to go multiply and fill the world
5 Protection-A woman feels protected when she is with a man,more so a man whom she loves so much.A man is also comfortable when with a woman he cherishes.
Life after marrying
Falling in love is the easy part,but staying in love is the real test of endurance.When you feel like the vibes are not right between you and your spouse,yet you are sure of your love,the problem might be your "LOVE LANGUAGE".
If you are not communicating at the same level,what speaks volume to you might be meaningless to your spouse.Real unfaltering romance is about understanding each other's unique needs.So for marriage to work you need a variety of spices;
1. Words of affirmation.
A good compliment can lift us out of the darkest moods.The only way of showing LOVE is to use a language that builds a health emotional climate in a relationship.Besides being powerful communicators of love, Words of appreciation or compliments that are verbal in a relationship are more motivating than disappointing.
In your relationship that you and your spouse agreed to stay together until death do you part,include words of encouragement.Words kindly said and making requests rather than demands on your spouse.These words include;please,I'm sorry,you are smart,you are beautiful etc.
Generally, communication in any relationship plays a big part.It brings friendship between spouses more especially if you communicate at the same level.To make a communication more powerful,use words that are encouraging,words that are motivating.
You must not win in all arguments as well.Another thing in communication is planning family matters.Do not do major things like investments without involving your spouse,for this might kill his or her trust.Instead come together and talk before doing anything like that.
If you do something wrong and you feel like you have wronged your spouse,talk to him or her.Ask for forgiveness,for no one is perfect.As the bible says in Proverbs 6:2-5 you will deliver yourself.
In your relationship that you and your spouse agreed to stay together until death do you part,include words of encouragement.Words kindly said and making requests rather than demands on your spouse.These words include;please,I'm sorry,you are smart,you are beautiful etc.
2.Communication
Generally, communication in any relationship plays a big part.It brings friendship between spouses more especially if you communicate at the same level.To make a communication more powerful,use words that are encouraging,words that are motivating.
You must not win in all arguments as well.Another thing in communication is planning family matters.Do not do major things like investments without involving your spouse,for this might kill his or her trust.Instead come together and talk before doing anything like that.
If you do something wrong and you feel like you have wronged your spouse,talk to him or her.Ask for forgiveness,for no one is perfect.As the bible says in Proverbs 6:2-5 you will deliver yourself.
3.Time You might be romantic,considerate,caring and so on,but if you have no time for your spouse, it will be held against you.
Find a quality time each day to be and talk with your spouse.
-Talk about your own feelings,desires and thoughts and pay attention to your spouse's interests as well.
-When spending quality time with your spouse;
Find a quality time each day to be and talk with your spouse.
-Talk about your own feelings,desires and thoughts and pay attention to your spouse's interests as well.
-When spending quality time with your spouse;
Maintain eye contact
Never ever do something else while listening to your spouse at the same time.Turn off the television,do not even receive phone calls while having a quality time with your spouse. Observe body language If physical talk doesn't come out easily to your spouse,his or her body language will give the feelings away.
Avoid interruption
Be attentive while your spouse is speaking,and dont defend yourself before your spouse has finished his or her say.When your partner finishes,now you can air your opinions calmly.By not interrupting you can as well maintain respect and avoid arguments.
4.Receiving Gifts Giving gifts to your spouse is a fundamental way of showing LOVE that can break all other barriers that comes in between your marriage.
Symbols evoke great emotional values.Your choice of gift depends on what you can afford,but more important is the gift of self.You are the person who knows the kind of gifts your spouse appreciates most.Gifts need not to be expensive,nor must they be given frequently.
5.Physical Touch This is a powerful way of showing love.Holding hands,kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse are all communicating emotional love.Ther is always the right moment for each of them to make your spouse feel special.
I WISH YOU WELL IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
